"She says, “You’re a masochist for falling for me, so roll up your sleeves."

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• Ingrid Michaelson, “Masochist”

There’s nothing like spending a little too much time with someone to suddenly make you feel completely inadequate and useless.

My roommate told me that I haven’t been fulfilling her needs from me as a friend. She explained her feelings very clearly, and seems pretty clear that it has nothing to do with me doing offensive things on purpose. It’s just my personality. I’m an introvert, and I haven’t been able to feed her extrovert soul.

In the same conversation, she made me feel like something little that I’m concerned about with someone else is something larger that is a huge problem and possibly also a personality deficiency for someone else. He may just be wired that way. There’s no hope.

This POV is fatalistic and upsetting. And I haven’t figured our how to deal with someone having the first conversation with you that indicates she’s breaking up with you. No matter whether it’s been friendships or relationships, I have always been the breaker upper. Now I’m getting a taste of what it’s like to be the victim.

It is terrible to disappoint someone and know there is nothing you can do to fix it, isn’t it?