March 29 2012
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March 24 2012
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"I do my thing and you do your thing. You are you and I am I. And if in the end we end up together, it’s beautiful."

— Boy Meets World (via biggerdreamscame)

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March 20 2012
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"Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there’d be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you’ll see these “set backs” as giant leaps forward, only you couldn’t see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up everyday, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek."

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Jackson Kiddard | (littlelaur, via champagnetoasts)

Alright, universe, I’m getting your well-timed and aptly-themed messages. Thanks.

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March 20 2012
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To love is to be vulnerable

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Stop Men From Rationalizing the Mid-Life Crisis

Choice quote: “While there really are never simple answers to human behavior and complex individual differences are so often the norm rather than the exception, typically this mid-life behavior is a byproduct of narcissistic tendencies (i.e., “It’s about what I want and my needs”) along with poor impulse control.”

I’d argue this isn’t limited to men, and also argue it’s possibly a reversion to a pubescent mental state. But is there any foolproof way to flip a switch to act like a grownup for the rest of your life?

Is This The Right Job For Me? A cheat sheet.

Divorce is immature and selfish. Don’t do it.

“I can’t be a good parent if I’m not happy and I’ll never be happy in this marriage.”

and

“The kids are doing so well. Kids are really resilient.”

I’ve heard those things so many times. From parents who are getting a divorce who are full of shit.

The dad who tells everyone he got a divorce because his wife is crazy and then leaves his kids with the mom. Newsflash: if your wife is really crazy, then you are crazy for leaving your kids alone with her. In fact, you are not crazy, you’re willfully negligent. And if your wife is not really crazy then get your butt back to the house and raise your kids like an adult.

The mom who says the kids are fine. What does that mean? Do you know that if you ask kids who are living with a crack addict mom if they are fine, they’ll say yes. They’ll say they want to stay. Because kids are trying to survive.

Penelope Trunk, again. 

If her premises here are true (and I’m inclined to think they are far more true than false), then is the solution not to get married? Or not to have kids? (Then you are still allowed to be selfish.)

Or is the solution not to be selfish? To fight the very impulses that make us human and that have typically been the root of our happiness?

I like to think that kids are pretty resilient buggers and can manage to cope and recover and blossom with infinite grace, given enough time. If we didn’t have the ability to change our world paradigm after major life changes, how would anyone recover after losing a friend, parent, home, pet, etc? I don’t know if I buy that things are as extreme as she presents them. But I do like her “no BS” approach to calling you out on the excuses you’re making for your behavior and the fallout if you’re getting a divorce. If you’re going through a divorce, you’d better take responsibility for everything that happens to you and anyone who depends on you. Even if you feel blindsided. 

TL;DR: Relationships are big and scary and complicated.