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22 Apr
  1. A wise person knows the proper aims of the activity she is engaged in. She wants to do the right thing to achieve these aims—wants to meet the needs of the people she is serving.
  2. A wise person knows how to improvise, balancing conflicting aims and interpreting rules and principles in light of the particularities of each context.
  3. A wise person is perceptive, knows how to read a social context, and knows how to move beyond the black-and-white of rules and see the gray in a situation.
  4. A wise person knows how to take on the perspective of another—to see the situation as the other person does and thus to understand how the other person feels. This perspective-taking is what enables a wise person to feel empathy for others and to make decisions that serve the client’s (student’s, patient’s, friend’s) needs.
  5. A wise person knows how to make emotion an ally of reason, to rely on emotion to signal what a situation calls for, and to inform judgment without distorting it. He can feel, intuit, or “just know” what the right thing to do is, enabling him to act quickly when timing matters. His emotions and intuitions are well educated.
  6. A wise person is an experienced person. Practical wisdom is a craft and craftsmen are trained by having the right experiences. People learn how to be brave, said Aristotle, by doing brave things. So, too, with honesty, justice, loyalty, caring, listening, and counseling.

- How to Cultivate Practical Wisdom in Our Everyday Lives and Why It Matters in Our Individual and Collective Happiness | Brain Pickings

So I’m wishing to be wise now?

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21 Apr
We might wish to see things “as they really are,” but there is no way that things “really are,” at least not in the complex and chaotic social world we inhabit.

- How to Cultivate Practical Wisdom in Our Everyday Lives and Why It Matters in Our Individual and Collective Happiness | Brain Pickings

To expand, and to explain why being a manager who can reframe is so important — and why there’s a place in the world for public relations:

“Frame” is a wonderful metaphor because it emphasizes our capacity to take the chaos of the social world around us and organize it in an understandable way. In framing the scene, we are setting the picture off from its surroundings, excluding what is on the outside and defining what is inside as special and worthy of attention. Frames tell us what is important and help us establish what should be compared with what. The capacity we have to frame enables us to do one of the most important things that practical wisdom demands — discern what is relevant about a particular context or event in regard to the decision we face. Learning to frame well helps make us wise.

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20 Apr

It’s time for another facelift…

So I kindof hate my blog theme right now. It feels so aspirational and squishy, and doesn’t feel like it’s tied to my 2014 principle of DOING THE WORK. It’s content to talk about the work and think about the work without actually diving into what I’m doing/reading/learning/etc. I’m concerned I’m talking without walking — and I need to focus on the walk. 

It’s time for another refresh to tie what I’m actually doing to where I hope it will take me. Something that’s a little more transparent, honest and real.

Stay tuned!

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20 Apr

Believe not what's true, but what's helpful | Mark Manson

I’ve gotten back into Mark Manson lately (always a good decision — he’s one of those bloggers who pops up on my radar intermittently but always at the right time). And I subscribed to his email list to get access to his PDF called 3 Ideas That Can Change Your Life (which is pretty fabulous marketing). The PDF didn’t disappoint. My favorite of his 3 ideas was the last one: Believe not what’s true, but what’s helpful. 

"A lot of times our problems are not actually problems, but rather symptoms of unhelpful beliefs

It doesn’t matter whether a belief is true or not, what matters is whether it’s helpful.”

Totally mindblowing, right? The accuracy of a claim is not as important as whether it can help you get better/stronger/smarter, etc. 

This one idea has given me a TON to think about as a manager. Am I sharing feedback that’s true, or am I sharing feedback that’s likely to be helpful?

And I love how this philosophy permeates every part of our life where we have invisible scripts or little beliefs about truth (read: all of them). 

The next time you feel stupid or insecure, ask yourself if that’s a useful belief to have. 

The next time you feel incompetent or like you’re incapable of accomplishing something, ask yourself if that’s a useful belief to have. 

The next time you feel unattractive and undesirable, or that a situation is impossible, ask yourself, is that a useful belief to have. 

Because it doesn’t matter what’s true or what’s not. The truth is up for endless debate in most circumstances. So why not debate on the side that helps you? 

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17 Apr

Yes yes yes yes yes!

(Source: believeinrecovery)

17 Apr

PSA: Summer fun in DC/VA

In the battle of the outdoor movies, Rosslyn handily defeats Crystal City this year with their amazing lineup of movies.

Rosslyn - Fridays:

May 30 - Office Space

June 6 - The Devil Wears Prada

June 13 - Horrible Bosses

June 20 - Thank You For Smoking

June 27 - Two Weeks Notice

July 11 - The Internship

July 18 - How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days

July 25 - Up in the Air

August 1 - Nine to Five

August 8 - Empire Records

August 15 - Miss Congeniality

August 22 - Anchorman

Crystal City - Mondays:

Monday, June 2, 2014 • Airplane!
Monday, June 9, 2014 • Drop Zone
Monday, June 16, 2014 • Planes, Trains and Automobiles
Monday, June 23, 2014 • Red Eye
Monday, June 30, 2014 • Top Gun
Monday, July 7, 2014 • Hot Shots
Monday, July 14, 2014 • Up in the Air
Monday, July 21, 2014 • Con Air
Monday, July 28, 2014 • ?
Monday, August 4, 2014 • ?
Monday, August 11, 2014 • Executive Decision
Monday, August 18, 2014 • Flight
Monday, August 25, 2014 • Snakes on a Plane

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17 Apr
So you plant your own garden and
decorate your own soul, instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.

Veronica A. Shofstall, “After a While” (via perfect)

An always reblog. 

(Source: larmoyante)