My heart wants roots. My mind wants wings. I cannot bear their bickerings.
E. Y. Harburg (via wanderlunds)
Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.
LBL is taking a turn towards the lovey-dovey for the holidays.
Because changing the world comes from making connections.
Because connection comes from vulnerability.
And because vulnerability is really fucking hard — and often completely worth it.
Run, don’t walk. Go after the things you want.
A healthy relationship is one where two independent people just make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves.
Unknown (via janeaustenfightclub)
I like this through the lens of business partners, friends, and lovers. This is everything you can hope for in life!
Employers are urging workers to stop smoking and lose weight, but many argue workplace wellness programs are ineffective—and can even hurt less-healthy employees. What’s the proper role of an employer in facilitating a healthy lifestyle?
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We watched Shawn Achor’s TED Talk last week at work, and I spoke to at least one person who thought it felt invasive and like we were trying to provide therapy or nannying for millennials.
I definitely disagreed with him at the time, and now it sure seems to follow some logic…
- What events stand out in my mind from the work day and how did it affect my inner work life?
- What progress did I make today and how did it affect my inner work life?
- What nourishes and catalysts supported me and my work today? How can I sustain them tomorrow?
- What one thing can I do to make progress on my important work tomorrow?
- What setbacks did I have today, and how did they affect my inner work life? What can I learn from them?
- What toxins and inhibitors impacted me and my work today? How can I weaken or avoid them tomorrow?
- Did I affect my colleagues’ inner work lives positively today? How might I do so tomorrow?
I LOVE the idea of keeping a work journal and reconciling the fragments of your day. For days/weeks like the one I’m having, these kind of touchpoints can be the difference between badass and bad blood.
I’m planning to start it tomorrow. Who’s with me?
I’ve been an complete and utter toad at work for the past couple weeks and feel like I purchased a one-way ticket to Assholeville, USA…but don’t know how to get off the train.
I’ve been thinking and writing about working right for months and years here, but it’s infinitely harder to be the person I want to be day-to-day especially under stress — kind, understanding, transparent, patient, respectful — than it is to just wax philosophical about it. I’m feeling frustrated and overwhelmed and it’s manifesting in lower positivity and professionalism than I want to bring to the table. In short, it’s not cute.
What do you do when you’re not being the person you want to be?